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For GH, an introspection on men and women and how we act together…

August 25, 2009

So, the other day, GH who writes a fabu blog over on the west side of the country was scribbling about his birthday, getting older, you know how it goes.

And I think that my exact comment was, “Women can’t handle you.”
Of course, he didn’t quite know what I meant, so I figured that I would scribble this down in the hopes of making myself more understood. Given that there are probably more than 3,000 miles between us this internet friendship needs to be fostered based on words…so hopefully I get this right.

What I meant by that statement was largely two fold.
1. I was told for years two things, a. That men find a smart women overwhelmingly intimidating. Same thing for if we know our sports. It’s like a guy thing. It’s hard to know what to say when a woman comes up to a man apparently, and knows more than them. But, in my defense, Mystery, the Pickup Artist extraordinaire stated that this only makes the male pick up artist’s work that much easier. Guess the rationale being that if I do the work for the guy, he can just sit back and relax. With that being said, I think sometimes when you’re just a bit too much for a woman, too smart, too straightforward, too aggressive, it does scare people away. My perspective of my buddy on the Westside is that he’s a rather introspective guy, deep in his own thoughts, and it often takes a lot for a woman, man, whomever to get to know him on a level worthwhile to investigating a relationship.

2. Sometimes when initially meeting either a woman or a man, initial impressions hold true throughout. It’s an odd situation, but let’s be honest…a good majority of the impression that you make on someone is based on the first 30 seconds that you see them. It’s an odd component. Take the other night. I went down to Little Havana with some girlfriends, the only and I mean the ONLY impression that I made on this fairly attractive man was based on the fact that I smiled at him when he walked in the door. He knew I was watching him all night, he was paying attention. I think however, this area is distinct. We have had a couple surveys done (both in Cosmo and Maxim) saying that the Baltimore/Washington D.C. area is the best area in the country to be single. The worst? You guessed it…LA. The reasons? I guess from what I’ve read, people in LA are very into how they look, how things look to other people.

My point? It’s can’t be the easiest place to live when you’re single. The more I spend watching people and chitchatting with both men and women the more I’m convinced that I should have gone into psychology. Ah well. I’d be interested to see what GH has to say about this. My entire point a lot of times, including the post-doc I met the other night who was, albeit with a beard, mildly attractive, I gotta tell you if you’re the person that you are regardless it will bode better for you than if you try and be the person that you envision the other wants. This I can actually speak from experience. I’m no Christy Brinkley, or even Zoe Deschanel, and have always had a chip on my shoulder for a health problem that I could never quite control. However, I’ve been doing okay in the dating scene, that now I’m engaged and happy as a clam.

How did that happen? I figured out one thing. I can’t fake it. I can’t make it up that I’m the person that particular man wants. I’m only the person that I am, I can’t change who I am, despite how hard I try.

That’s about it. By the way, I’m bad about editing, so sorry.

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Still having it, Michael Vick, and moving on…

August 16, 2009

So, I initially really got knee deep back into this blog because my now fiancee was moving and I needed something to essentially take my mind off of him being so far away. Now that I have friends that are finishing their PhD’s (and are no longer wannabe graduate students, but actual legit docs); I’m starting to realize that a lot of what this blog means to me, is that everything that has ever been stuck in my brain is allowed a place to release, take flight, and say screw it.

Like my soon to be father in law, he doesn’t get it, it doesn’t make sense to him why have a blog, why write it all down? To me, in my mind, that seems like a real simpleton type view. That you’re just not complex enough to do things.

So, alas…my girl Kristen is moving. She’s a local like me, has lived here her entire life like me, she finished her PhD and is moving to Richmond. As much as I’m sad for her to go, the night will be and always has been very interesting when she’s involved. Tonight was no different. We went out to Little Havana tonight for some goofing off, drinking, looking cute, and hanging out. Cute guy rolls in with his buds and some chickies and I gotta tell you, for someone that’s engaged, he was hot. Like wicked hot. I figured giving the Orioles jersey that he was local, and just was gazing, looking, enjoying the art of being female. So, it’s funny…I never EVER had this kind of nerve when I was single. But, given the fact that I had two single friends I was like screw it, if he comes over I’ll hide the ring and talk to him.

Then I thought…the guy would be kinda pist about this. So, I was straight up, he was of course disappointed, but he also gave the vibe of trying just a tad too hard. I’m sure that he was bummed that he got the nerve to talk to a chick and she’s engaged, but I gotta tell you that it felt good that I got a cute guy not only to compliment me (which he of course ruined later) but to hit on one of my friends till of course he screwed it up.

I was proud of myself, I couldn’t help but think, “I still got it.”

Meanwhile, Michael Vick was signed by the Philadelphia Eagles. As much as I have grown up as one of the fans of the two best teams in football, the Washington Redskins and the

An Update of Sorts Part II…or Three…or whatever it is.

May 27, 2009

So, I will admit in the past two weeks I have been bad with updating. Things have been hectic, crazy, and busy, but delightfully so. I am currently in the process of finishing my research proposal and although I really wish that it could be done sooner rather than later, I’m back at the bench fixing all the problems that were created because I took sometime to write.

A bit of good news and words on everything that’s been going on in the media, life, etc.

My 5th anniversary came and went with some fantastic news. I went out to Chicago, we had a great weekend me and my hunny, and we got engaged. I was SHOCKED. Like blown away surprised, ecstatic actually. It was a night to remember and I am forever grateful to my sweetie for giving it to me. That being said, there’s currently no plans in the works for the wedding as I’m in the midst of proposal planning above.

Okay, so a few current events:
Ann Coulter can suck it for all I care, I don’t really like the woman. She was on Good Morning America today talking about the Supreme Court nominee Sonia Sotomayor. I gotta tell you despite your political affiliation, it’s interesting to watch that stuff because between her and James Carville, well I have to tell you that the Southern gentleman of James Carville wins out everytime for me. Sotomayor’s nomination is only a day old and people are already giving her the nod like it doesn’t have to go through a process. I’m all for Obama, I think he’s doing a decent job, but cmon. I’m applauding his choice, but something seems fishy to me.

Onto yes your favorite family and mine…
Jon and Kate Plus 8 premiered their 5th season this Monday, and then rebroadcasted again last night. I was grateful that my girl Missy called because if that isn’t a train wreck I don’t know what is. I’ll admit it, I used to watch the show. The kids are cute, and it’s an interesting look at people trying to take care of sextuplets as well as two twin girls. Now, initially, it really was interesting, a good perspective, they aren’t that far north of me being in Bucks County, PA. After all the media hype of Jon’s alleged affair and how they are starting to pull apart….well it’s just sad. I’m a huge fan of reality TV but then there’s train wreck TV. From reports that I’ve read, there was visual hostility that instead of sitting in their favorite loveseat together, they were barely touching barely looking.

Kate, you’re my age. I know it’s a different lifestyle, you’re trying to take care of your family, your kids, your husband. But, other than your hairstyle, which isn’t terrible, you’ve got to give it up. Perhaps it’s time to walk away from TLC. Now, I know what you’re thinking. The Duggars have a very successful show, why can’t we?

You have your successful show. I hope that you guys have enough money at this point to at least attempt to start a nice college fund for the girls and the sextuplets, but for now…you’ve got to work on your marriage.

Just an outsider looking in. Oh, and on that note…shame on you TLC. Shame on you.

Meanwhile, a report out of Tampa Bay said that a suburban couple was arrested today of multiple counts of possession with the intention to distribute illegal steroids and the district is still ringing. The couple implicated both the Washington Capitals and Nationals in the bust, saying they had sold to key players on both teams. Now, let’s be honest. With the worst record in the Major Leagues right now…is anyone really worried about the Nationals and if they took steroids? Which I’ve got to admit, I highly doubt given their stupendous record. But, yup you guessed it…why the only team that has won in DC in a long time do you go after the beloved Caps?

Dick Patrick, president of the Washington Capitals came out vehemently against the allegation. I’m sure Ted Leonsis will do the same. I’m confident…for now. I’ve been disappointed before.

Helio Castroneves won the Indianapolis 500 the other day right after coming out from under accusations of alleged tax fraud charges. He was so happy he cried. His sister, mother, the entire family in tears. Danica Patrick finished 3rd.

Guess that’s it from here at home. I’ll be in and out for a while, I’ve been doing my best to stay sane. I’ll keep ya’ll updated.

Something’s going to happen ~ Chances are 50/50 they’re going to be pretty good…

May 4, 2009

“and I’m willing to take that risk.”

I’ve got to tell you, for someone that has been dealing with a disorder for longer than the other part of her life, I saw Michael J Fox on Actor’s Studio tonight.

He brought me to tears. He deals with the pain with a seemingly relative ease. States that it’s terribly painful, but moves on. Moves up, gets past it. There is something so wildly refreshing from that. I have always felt to a certain extent that when people would tell me, “Oh you’re so strong.” I would like laugh it off. I guess now I need to start saying thank you. It was one of those things that you just do.
What are you going to do?
With any disorder that you have to deal with, it’s one of those things…it’s hard to say…harder even to explain.
No one tells you “Oh you’re going to die.” No one tells you how or what to do next. You go to school, and people try and extract you out and holler at you, and all you can do..honestly, is just go on. Fight.Fight really really hard. Everything becomes very aggressive and it becomes a “Screw you” or get screwed type of persona. I think to a certain extent that’s why I become so aggressive towards things.

I am firmly convinced that is why I’m with my bf to this day. I was aggressive towards how I felt for him for one reason and one reason only.

I knew in my heart that if I didn’t tell him how I felt I would never forgive myself. I would eternally hurt in my heart if I didn’t let him know that my heart yearned for him.

It’ll be 5 years on Saturday.

My heart still hurts every time he parts from my company.

Oh and by the way…

April 9, 2009

Be forewarned profound swearing in the following post.

I completely forgot. This fucktard of a sportscaster decided to diss my town. So, here’s how we go: Colin Cowherd kiss my ass. The city of Baltimore has HUGE issues with not only with MLB and Peter Angelos. It’s not Bud Selig you nimrod, it’s Peter Angelos. Think about the AL East moron.

What do we have with the AL East? NY Yankees, Boston Red Sox, Toronto Blue Jays, us, and the Tampa Bay Rays. NY has had a history of winning, the Red Sox and the Rays have won World Series as of recent. The big rip about Mark Texieira?

Here’s the thing about Mark Texieira….Mark Texieira is born and raised in the city of Annapolis. The state capital of this state by the way. He has always stated in the variety of venues, excluding your show of course, that he would of course play for the Orioles if given the opportunity and the amount of money available was worthwhile. It wasn’t there, fine. He’s been booed for the past three days coming back to Baltimore and that in my opinion is how it should be. By dissing us for Boston, that wouldn’t be a big deal. For the Angels, no problem. He had to go to the place where everyone that’s born and raised within 50 miles of the city of Baltimore (which includes the now defunct Expos turned Nationals) knows is heathenous, the fucking New York goddamn Yankees. Yes we know it’s a rivalry that is one sided, no one gives a rat’s ass.

He’s a sell out. Hey, more power to him I say, you want to be a sell out go for it. But admit it. The NY Yankees have had a series of sellout players that panned out into nothing. Baltimore has a rich history of being a training ground for good players, per your example aka Miguel Tejada. So, Mr Cowherd, it’s gotta be said here.

Stay outta Charm City because there’s no Charm involved in your show. I listened to your one clip you piss pour piece of shit. You wanna talk about the Rust belt? Talk about “small cities”??? Until last year did you even BLINK at the Philadelphia Phillies? Nope, that’s right you didn’t. Guys like Chase Utley just came into their own two years ago. It’s a build up. It’s a restructure.

Don’t get me wrong, we know as O’s fans that we’re never gonna be the best in the world. But…let’s be honest, you’re so happy that Texieira punked out his hometown for the Yankees, where were they in the playoffs last year? Hmm? Anywhere?

Oh yeah, they weren’t.

And according to the most recent census: We’re 500,000 people behind Philadelphia. So, go talk about your “big” cities and kiss my ass.

I could ramble on and on…

March 30, 2009

So, it’s been about two or some odd weeks before I had a chance to sit down and throw some info down here about what’s been going on. I’ve been super busy and it doesn’t look to finish anytime soon, but I figured that I would throw some information up and let the cards fall where they may.
Speaking of cards…X-Men Origins: Wolverine is due out May 1st, and although I have always been a fan of the X-Men series, I’m SUPER excited that my favorite mutant, Gambit is coming out to play for the 1st time in the X-Men movies. It actually is going to be good next couple weeks for movies. The original cast is back for Fast and Furious and from what I’ve heard of the soundtrack I’m blissfully happy about it. Vin Diesel, Paul Walker, Michelle Rodriguez, the cars…man the cars alone would have me waiting for tickets for this movie. State of Play also looks like it’s going to be a thrilling movie. Of course this summer we’re also waiting on Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince for which of course I’m grateful and can’t WAIT to see. I saw Watchmen when I was in Chicago for my conference and I’ve got to say that seeing things in the IMAX is the way to see a movie, ESPECIALLY a movie like that. It was good but if you’re anticipating a movie that is a normal super hero movie, you will be grossly disappointed.

Life as a graduate student will hopefully mellow out slightly in June. So, when I initially took my comprehensive exam in August last year, I didn’t pass all of the exam. I passed some but not all. So, I have taken WAY too long to deal with this, and now I have one more exam to take, as I took my 4th (out of 5) on Friday. So, if the exam I took on Friday comes out, I’ll take this last exam. To say I’m nervous is an understatement. I’m tired of doing these tests though. It will be nice one way to come out in the wash.

I have had a hard time with people as of recent. I think it’s hard for me to read people, and I try really hard not to let people hurt my feelings, and in the meantime, hurt others. I don’t like that. I don’t like thinking that about people. But, here’s the thing. If I’m calling you on something, one of two things is happening. Either 1. You did it, and you don’t like being called out. or 2. I genuinely hurt your feelings. But, I’ve got to ask the few readers I have out there…if I legit apologize, isn’t that enough? I figure that I’m not the type to hold grudges, I have a tendency to either forget about it, or just to write you off. I will admit it, it’s either one or the other for me. But, if you legit apologize, that I’ll take what you said, say okay we’re cool and move on.

Why is it that no one thinks the way I do? *sigh* Maybe it’s just me.

Oh, and a last bit news bit here. The Mt. Dew Action Sports Tour announced their new dates for the 2009 tour, and I just have to air my disappointment here. As a skateboarding fan, I was blissfully happy that the Dew Tour will make a stop in Grant Park in Chicago…conveniently to boyfriend’s house right? Too bad it’s not going to be the skateboarders!!! It’s not going to be any skateboarding in the 2nd city…no no…they’re going to Boston.

What’s going on people???? I recognize that the boarding community got screwed here in Baltimore for the beloved Orioles that haven’t gotten out of the basement of the AL east in a long time, but I mean hey…at least if you’re going to build a park, you’re going to build a half-pipe, throw the event all at the same time please????

My Thing About Shoes…

February 26, 2009

So, as I was telling Jackie the other day not only do I have a thing about shoes but it’s like well, a long story.

See, I’ve been on crutches now for close to 17 years. 17 years! There are kids here at this University that are that old! But, ever since then, my collection of shoes has a right foot graveyard, and my collection of left foot shoes. I continue to say shoes too…that’s the thing and like get offended when people say “oh I like your shoe”. Well, I like your shoe too, but I haven’t decided if I like the right or the left, so hey.

Which leads me to my original point. The trendy stylish shoes. For a while there it was Uggs. Ugg boots retail around $200. US of course. Now I recognize that there are importing costs, etc. etc. But believe me, this gal ain’t buying anything that costs $200 to put on one foot. That’s just too much for one foot.

This is my thing. I have probably two pairs of expensive shoes. My birks which I bought circa 1994 have yet to have recorked and still adore to this day, my tevas, got a discount, my chucks? $20 a piece baby. For both shoes even. I have quite a collection of chucks going given my shoe houndiness. I guess that’s the scientist in me, I can’t pass up a good deal. Even my boring work business related shoes are cuter than anything and were about $20 a pair. I’ve never gotten the whole shoe thing. Sure, those stilletos are cute but once you stand in them for longer than like 20 minutes your feet hurt.

There’s no point in that ladies, I don’t care how good they make your legs look.

Do You Speak Prada? Confessions of a Shopaholic Movie Review

February 11, 2009

My name is Melinda, and I’m well, I’m…a shopaholic.

Yes folks, when I went to New York, people want to see the sites: Ground Zero, Radio City, Rockefeller Plaza…me…I wanted to see Baby Phat, Betsey Johnson, Ralph Lauren, and Calvin Klein. While others go to Paris to see the Orsay, I went to Paris to see the Champs Elysees. I didn’t care that the Louvre was closed I saw Saint Honoré. So, when Confessions of a Shopaholic was coming out in the theaters, I was first in line.

Now wait, I know what you’re thinking: It’s not out till Friday, what’s going on? I stopped into my favorite boutique here in Baltimore, the Funky Beehive and low and behold they were giving away passes to a sneak preview and had 15% off EVERYTHING in the store! Score! So off we went last night to see it a couple days early to boot!

I remember my first realization I was a shopaholic. As I was watching Rebecca go through the motions of being the daughter of a thrift store lover, I must admit that it brought me back to the day of being in Crate and Barrel with my sister. I had fluffed off home furnishing for close to 24 years, and now I had been faced by the cutest dang on dishes that had ever graced the shelves in 30 states. Not unlike Rebecca with her “magic cards” it was a must have purchase. It didn’t matter whether I had the money or not. I knew enough to know that they would cancel the pattern and needed to strike while the iron was hot.

I can feel for Rebecca, sometimes your eyes just glaze over, and you shop. She shopped herself to a $9,000 credit card bill. In a fit of tequila flavored frenzy, her and her best pal Suze, decide that they are going to send the albeit attractive editor of Successful Saving a $20 to get new clothes, and the editor of Allete Magazine a sample of her writing because Rebecca is destined to write for the elite fashion magazine. Well, one thing leads to another and Successful Saving is where Rebecca ends up.

As she progresses through her writing for the magazine under a pseudonym, the magazine flourishes. Her debt collectors don’t quite disappear into the dust though. As her shopping addiction increases, so do the phone calls finally leading to a climax. That’s about all I can give you from here. Based on the best selling books, Confessions of a Shopaholic and Shopaholic Takes Manhattan this movie stars: Isla Fisher as Rebecca Bloomwood, Hugh Dancy as the attractive editor Luke Brandon, and Krysten Ritter as Suze.

There are some very successful cameo appearances including Joan Cusack as Rebecca’s mom, and John Goodman as Rebecca’s dad. John Lithgow shows up as the owner of Dante West, and Lynn Redgrave even shows her face in a comedic performance that I haven’t seen in a while from her. This movie is light hearted, funny, endearing, and speaks Prada, Versace, and Gucci. For the Shopaholic readers, I must admit there are huge parts of the book that are missing, but will leave it up to you to go see it.

I firmly rate this: Full ticket price.

I Watch so you don’t have to ~ A Frost/Nixon Review

January 27, 2009

This movie starred Frank Langella, Michael Sheen, Sam Rockwell (one of my favorites btw), Oliver Platt, and Kevin Bacon. It was directed by Ron Howard. It is apparently based off a stage play of the same name that had actually won a Tony Award.

Peter Morgan who also wrote the play paints the picture of the legendary battle between David Frost, a defunct Australian TV show host looking to get back to London and get back to working in the US. It was interesting, after 3 years of staying silent, the president decides that he needs to finally get it all straight to the American public as to what really happened in his time in office. Frost offers the right price ($600,000) and in an effort not to do a “fluff” piece he hires a staff of crack researchers and journalists including Bob Zelnick (Platt) and James Reston Jr (Rockwell). Don’t fool yourself into thinking that Nixon didn’t do the same thing…he had Diane Sawyer and Frank Gannon.

I can tell why Langella is up for Best Actor. He portrays the president as a man who’s lost in retirement. You feel as if he’s only a step away from falling into alcoholism, depression, a combination of both. Sheen did a fantastic job as well showing how lost Frost was in trying to challenge the mundane activities of the everyday journalist to make an exciting and worthwhile interview. Howard puts together a picture that goes along with a great story. It’s a picture portrait of Nixon as a frail man and a damaged man that was a bit too paranoid for the presidency.

Let it be said I was really excited for this movie.

And nearly fell asleep in it. This movie is really slow. It also didn’t help that imagine yourself getting to the point…Nixon is going to admit wrong doing in the coverup of the Watergate scandal…and the lights come up in the theater and the strobe lights start going. Yes, we got caught in a fire alarm at the movie theater. Just say no to burnt popcorn.

This movie was well done, well written, and well directed. Do I think that it will win Best Picture? I don’t think so. But, I’ve been wrong a lot. I think that Slumdog Millionaire is well on it’s way. But, that’s just me. I think that Howard had it right though, releasing it to the rest of the country when he did. Right after the inauguration it showed people that it was about maybe this is correlated to Bush, maybe not. It showed a lot of correlation that made Nixon and Bush look like the same guy. Howard said that he didn’t do it on purpose…but you’re supposed to say that in public right?

In my growing scale of popcorn, I’d give it a matinee price. It’s worth the matinee, but that’s about it. Oh, and bring your own candy.

Randomness in No Particular Order

January 8, 2009

1. It’s fucking cold out. I can’t imagine you suckers out in the midwest dealing with this since the beginning of December. It’s January, the midst of the little weather that I have here in MD, and I want to get off already. I think about bf being out in Chitown, and all I want to do is shiver.

2. There’s nothing nicer than having my parents over for dinner. My dad and I had the nicest time last night. That damn puzzle just won’t finish itself. I don’t get it.

3. I wonder if it’s true sometimes, now that we’ve been living apart for 4 months, if absence does make the heart grow fonder. My bf was here for 2 weeks, and my heart shattered again when he left. It’s odd too. I get mean. Like MEAN when crap like this happens.

4. After 32 years, I’ve realized that Maryland isn’t necessarily the best place in the whole world. I’m not saying that it ain’t great, it is…just saying that sometimes it’s not as blissful when you’re away from the people you care about.

5. Escaping can be a good thing. But, given that I heard on the news the other day that Arizona got snow…I have no where to hide.

6. Good data can make your entire week, bad data the next day can make you suicidal.

7. Turned in my first re-write, here’s moving on to all things alcohol!

8. Perhaps I should just get used to being in the return line. Christmas was wonderful, but those skinny jeans just aren’t my thing anymore. Damn swelling bs leg.

9. Moving on should be the token phrase for 2009.

10. And finally, I know I know, the entire world is in love with Barack Obama. And, as much as I’m excited for the new presidency, this whole BS whistle stop tour is going to immobilize this area for almost a whole week and it’s going to be a MAD HOUSE. Oh, and let me also take this time to give a big FU to Southwest airlines for increasing fares to Chicago because Barack is from there and so people will be flying back and forth. Thanks for NOTHING. Thankfully Ma will not be at work the day before or the day of inauguration. I will happily be watching the chaos from the comfort of my own home.

Like J said, I think 10’s enough for today. Happy New year!